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Screen-Free Week 2011

You can do it!

Screen-Free Week starts TOMORROW and I think we’re ready. Are you up to the challenge? You’ll find you have so much more time to do the stuff and hang out with the people you say you don’t have time for.

Let us know how things are going as you move through your own Screen-Free Week. Best wishes!


4 hours and 49 minutes

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I don’t know about you, but the graph above is a combination of shocking, troubling, and a little bit scary.

I could lecture, give facts, opinions, cite studies, and more. Instead, I’ll just ask two questions:

1. What would your home be like if the TV wasn’t on for an average of 8 hours and 21 minutes a day?

2. What could you do with an extra 4 hours and 49 minutes a day?

If we can keep these questions in mind as we make our 2011 goals and resolutions, I think we’ll be much more productive, happy, healthy, and blessed.

Wishing you a TV-free 2011!

Battle Lines Drawn

Bring it.

Crouching, scheming, my opponent draws up her plan. Wary of the first-timer’s untested ways, I reach back in my mind to similar battles fought years ago. Where would I strike first?

“The Rookie”, a title that has caused many an opponent to go easy on her – until she snatches victory from them, consults with her advisor. She strikes first. An unconventional move, to be sure. But this is not a conventional war. No, my friend.

You're no match for me!

As the battle raged on, an astute observer might have compared it to a tango, rather than the gruesome and difficult ordeal it was. Resolute, I press on, vaulting over the orbs launched in my direction. Intended to throw me off track, I use them to my advantage.

In the end, my experience is too much for The Rookie. I conquer her former territory and take it as my own. Respectfully, as a defeated foe might be expected, she replies, “That was SOOOOO fun, Daddy!”


She said that?!

Our kids aren’t perfect. I won’t even pretend they are. Tonight, though, our daughter said something that has me beaming.

“My brother was so cute that I started to cry, Daddy. We’re so blessed that he’s in our family.”

I’m trying to figure out where that came from. She is an amazingly loving and caring child normally, but this takes the cake. I can’t help but wonder if our lack of television creates an environment where this type of love between siblings can more easily be fostered.

I don’t know. We got rid of our TV so we could strenghten our marital relationship. Is the lack of digital distraction also strengthening our children’s relationships?

How is your family different without TV? How could your family be different without television in the home?


Blessings and Curses

Nine years ago, my wife and I lived and taught in the beautiful town of Copan Ruinas, Honduras. My first realization that TV stinks came when we rode with a friend to her home for dinner.

As we bounced along the washed-out road, we noticed that a large number of people in the neighborhoods were gathered around a few TV sets scattered in houses here and there.

Our friend told us that before electricity had been brought to their barrio a few years earlier, people would gather in a similar way. The only difference was that friends and neighbors would sit around and talk to each other. TV had changed that. Now, electricity had brought blessings and curses: blessings such as electric appliances for those who could afford them and curses such as TV.

How is your home in comparison? Are your evenings filled with conversation? Or does David Letterman, Bear Grylls, or the SportsCenter guys have the last word of the night?