Screen-Free Week starts TOMORROW and I think we’re ready. Are you up to the challenge? You’ll find you have so much more time to do the stuff and hang out with the people you say you don’t have time for.
Today was TOMS shoes annual One Day Without Shoes. If you haven’t heard, TOMS has successfully combined business and giving by providing a new pair of shoes to kids without footwear when someone buys a pair.
It was a great chance to get the students at my school to look at me like I was crazy. It was even better to have them realize how fortunate they are to have their basic needs met. I teach in a high-poverty school. But none of the students there face the level of poverty much of the world deals with.
Hopefully by being crazy and a little weird, I can get my charges to think about ways they can solve a problem they see in their communities.
It takes 150 hours to build a Lamborghini. I once read that it takes 24 man hours just to stitch the leather on the seats. In contrast, somewhere between 50-75 lesser cars can be built in an hour on an assembly line. Why are Lamborghinis so expensive? Because of the work and quality of materials put into them.
I want my kids to be the Lamborghinis of the world. Kias are probably nice cars and can get you from here to there but they’re not renowned for their quality. I don’t want Kia kids.
If you want highly-valued, high-character children, you have to put in the man hours. Put the stupid remote down and get involved in the day-to-day lives of the little people that matter.
I’m a rare bird – a male elementary school teacher. At trainings and education conferences I’ve been to, men are outnumbered at least 10:1. So it comes as no surprise when some well-meaning woman comes up to me and says, “Bless your heart. You know, we need more male teachers.” I always agreed with them.
The underlying reason for their statement is the fact that so few children have male role models in their daily lives. A male teacher would provide that model for at least 180 days. While I relish being a role model for my students, I’ve realized something.
It’s not my job.
David Popenoe wrote in his book Life Without Father:
But the decline of fatherhood is a major force behind many of the most disturbing problems that plague American society: crime; premature sexuality and out-of-wedlock births to teenagers; deteriorating educational achievement; depression, substance abuse and alienation among adolescents; and the growing number of women and children in poverty.
I’m supposed to make up for that?!?
Listen, there is no way that I can fill the father-sized hole in my students in 180 days. In my current class of 15, six students have their fathers in their homes. This is the highest total in my eight years teaching at my present school. I can almost always tell if Dad is around after being around my students for a few days.
More male teachers certainly wouldn’t hurt anything, but it’s not the solution.
The solution is stronger families. Stronger men. Stronger leaders. We need men who will step up and do the difficult job of raising a family. I know it’s not easy. It would be so much easier for me to check out on my three children. But that’s not what they need.
Kids don’t need more male teachers. They need their daddy to be Daddy.
Wishing you a great day full of family time, too many treats, and more family time.
You can probably tell by the subtle name of this blog that I don’t care too much for television. At first, I found this ad to be hilarious in its rosiness. Then I read the copy under the heading “Will television strengthen family ties?” Through my squinty eyes I read that “parents can select their children’s ‘TV diet’ from a wide variety of wholesome programming.” While a casual flip through the channels today reveals anything but a ‘wide variety of wholesome programming’, parents have the duty to monitor their kids’ viewing choices.
The Parents’ Television Council has a lovely color-coded chart that is limited in that it only covers the old-guard networks. But it does give you an idea about what other shows may contain.
There’s really not much that is wholesome and even beneficial on television today. But if your kids are going to watch something, you’d best be aware of what is in their “TV diet”.
My brother flew into town to hug a rock so we went to Linville Gorge for some rock hugging. While everyone and their dogs were going to Table Rock, we headed for the Shortoff Mountain trail. When a guidebook says the trail is strenuous, it is going to be strenuous. But, oh the views! The beauty of the mountains is incredible.